Naomi Mbewe Zimba, wife of Newstead Zimba has asked the magistrates court to have her 20-year-old marriage to dissolved. Naomi claimed Mr Zimba, a former Cabinet minister and diplomat, is violent, adulterous and once infected her with a sexually transmitted disease, adding that he does not care for her.
She narrated that problems in their matrimony started just after they married because he had a girlfriend who was working for the National Assembly of Zambia- one of the country’s highly revered institutions.
“He used to come home late. I remember one time when our child was sick I asked him to drive us to the clinic he refused, forcing me to wait until the following morning to take the child to the clinic. I walked 10 kilometres to the nearest clinic. On my way back, he cruised past me.”
Naomi said: “I forgave him but his detestable behaviour continued. He is one man who allowed his friends to come home with their girlfriends.
“They do whatever they want to an extent that they cook and serve themselves without my permission.”
She recalled a time during political campaigns when Zimba went to the Copperbelt with another woman named Mervis, who was his other girlfriend.
She said his insatiable appetite for extra- marital affairs has no limits because he reached an extent of proposing love to her younger sister.
In his quest to have an affair with his sister-in-law, Zimba went to her school to enquire more about the girl’s school programme and arranged to pick her up.
“His love [lust] for my sister was so deep that when she died, he was so devastated and told me that he felt like a part of him had died,’’ she said.
To strengthen her case further, Naomi disclosed that among other women Zimba was flirting with are a cleaner named Candy in Sweden, where he served as Zambia’s ambassador, another one called Alice, and a Ms Mtine, who was an ambassador in Namibia.
She said when Zimba was minister, he was always accompanied by a Ms Siwale from the Ministry of Community Development on all his official duties.
She does not want to reconcile with him because he has always wished her dead, adding that he pretends to people that he loves her when in fact not.
But Zimba, who has not been living with Naomi for six months now since she left home, was vividly shocked at his wife’s revelations and asked the court to ignore the submission.
He asked magistrates Abishine Michelo, Linda Tembo, and Pauline Newa to reconcile them and not to dissolve their marriage because he loves her so dearly.
Zimba claimed that Naomi is just possessed with some evil spirit, hence her outburst in court.
He said they had lived in harmony as a happy couple until he caught her with another man.
“Omi my wife, as I call you, there are problems in every home, please come back home. I need you, I love you,’’ Mr Zimba pleaded.
But she refused and pleaded with the magistrate to dissolve the marriage because she cannot continue living with a violent man who always threatens to kill her.
The magistrate then asked the couple to list properties they co-own and when Naomi talked about the cars, Zimba chipped in and told the court that she cannot talk about the vehicles as he bought them using his personal money.
Judgment on the matter has been reserved for October 22, 2013 to allow the couple to explore other avenues of resolving their marital impasse.
Mwefipuba mwee, emalyashi ya kuleta pa mwela aya? Atase
Mwandi naine napapa. Exposing someone’s private life just like that as there’s no such thing as “confidentiality”.
meant to say “as if there’s no such thing…”
Mushota, Pass the Puke Bucket Please!
Zambian women are such doomed man worshipers! How do you stay in such a marriage for 20 years!
Honestly Naomi, you couldn’t drive your child to the hospital? Cars at home and you couldn’t learn to drive?
Men are natural born bullies if you are fickle hearted like most Zambian women are, they will walk all over you.
My neighbor’s dog has ability to suppress extreme sexual provocation from other dogs on leash. Mr and Mrs Zimba could learn a lot from this dog!
@ Nubi,
I 100% agree with you, 20 years of agony, emotional and physical pain honestly speaking, My word…. i would have taught him a life time lesson any woman would never be his victim ever again!
Zambian mothers and Fathers please teach your daughters there is more to life than marriage, it’s about time people realised that no one can make your life worth while other than you yourself.
The dude is even pleading in court saying he loves her, what lies, he’s in love with his property for which he’s afraid of losing, what a loser!
@cindy
Much as i understand your points, In this case please remember to factor in that this young lady naomi `stole` mr zimba from his much older wife.. so when she was getting into the marriage she knew that mr Zimba had a kamusango, for 20yrs she hanged on regardless of anything, well knowing that Mr Zimba was bring in money..
Naomi is only reacting now because mr Zimba is broke.. and maybe useles in bed.
I will not be suprised if 3yrs or 4yrs from now Tandiwa divorced RB claiming abuse
@Ndobo,
I dont know what transpired in their marriage i therefore cant judge, but from her account i can tell that the guy had been busy. Otherwise, you have made me laugh with that “kamusango” i havent heard of this word in centuries, am really breaking into pieces right now it makes me miss home though.
But seriously why do women behave this way, why cant someone just leave when the signs start showing, i would never believe anyone who says they had no idea their man was a Dog… every woman knows, for when there is a slight change of movement you can spot it immediately, so i can only blame it on her period, she should have left way before the wound started rotting, too bad anyway.
@Cindy. Clearly you are not and can never get married! Your solution to practical marriage issues is calling a husband a “Dog”, or “Teaching him a lesson”, or “she should have left before,,,” WHO Really do you think you are? You are not the “wife” material but a “Ntombwa fye one night st.and” type. Indeed you are “missing home” AND getting very OLD with no experience or even hope of ever getting married! Good luck Nkote za mu Diasporab – there are younger beauties pa Zed!
@chilyata
Thats extreme and gross.. and unwise of you !!! who are you to say that cindy is not wife material??… i like cindy and i think she is one of the few repectful bloggers on lusaka times. leave Cindy alone she is wife material to me.. if you think otherwise sorry, check your testosterone level you sound frustrated with yourself and you dont sound like a husband material yourself!!!
@ Ndobo,
Thankx, otherwise Mr Chilyata proves to me what kind of a different world we live in, therefore, he would never understand mine or i his way of life, i can now see why most “Zambian/ African” women end up dying all in the name of marriage! society to blame. Ati kote za mu diaspora… whats up with that and who is kote? Hihihihihihi.
@Ndobo cheers bro – Cindy wife material? I repect your opinion! This is a backward woman who calls men “Dogs” forgetting that her father was/is a man and therefore she is a daughter of a “Dog” that was fuc.king her mother! How sensible?
Simply because she lives abroad, Cindy is even patronising on married women in Zambia/Africa when she says ” “Zambian/ African” women end up dying….etc! But why call it Zambian or African BUT NOT European? It just shows her narrow mindedness and inferiority complex OR even lack of good academic educattion! What can Cindy say about a UK man called Mick Philpott, a father of 17 children by 5 women who lost 6 Children in a fire! Those 5 women were not Zmbian or African were they?
How about successful married women in Zed like Mizinga Melu; Chileshe…
@Cindy: True we live in different world. I live in the real world BUT you live in Utopia!
By the way, dont think you are the only one living in the Diaspora! I also do and have been living in the diaspora for more than a decade BUT can never look down on our people in Zed!
I am in fact a successful academic-I do not want to bragg about qualifications because that is not important here. I dont know what you are doing in the diapora and I just hope you are doing something sensible – not just cleaning in Old People’s Homes.
The women you are despising in “Zambia/Africa” are actually doing meaningful high level jobs in Banking, Government and Private sectors; above all they are married and have families! Some of you are just sleeping around with Nigerians who use Zambian girls as…
what goes around comes around and the only reason she staid was fear of being laughed at by the people who knew how she took another woman’s man,zimba is a screw up and he knows..that’s how come he is with her.she deserves what she is getting and even worse,,,,,mxxxxxm
@1.9 Chilyata, you can’t stand a woman who speaks her mind eh? Good for you Cindy. At the same time he accuses you of calling men names he does the same to you. Hypocrite.Mwandi Cindy you are nowhere near ‘nkote’ as he says. That’s only in his mind.
Now to Zimba. Isn’t he the same Zimba whose wife went to confront his mistress and it was shown on Znbc News twenty years ago? If this is the man, it’s amazing that he is even alive today. And if Naomi is that mistress, then she has learned her lesson: What goes around comes around.
Icho Chinyanta ! Chakasoka ka Ciundy kaba na guilty as charged.Ala mwandi even me that my opinion pali ka Cindy na Nubian.I doubt abakashana aba ngabalyupwa.Ala chabulanda sana.
sometimes keeping secrets in marriage will lead you nowhere, people have died because they kept everything to themselves. u cover someone’s ass and then he goes to show the same ass to other people, ata!
@1.16 Mwebe Data…… Cindy and Nubian have a right to voice their opinions. You are the kind of men with the mentality of ‘women should be seen and not heard’. You want to discuss issues but you don’t want women to voice their thoughts on it.Instead you want women to smile coyly and look down.Forget it! Your idea of what a woman should be is totally backward. I don’t usually support what these women say on this forum but I support their right to say it. Nubian, Cindy, continue your postings chilebashokota. Maybe they’ll go jump in the lake.
Soap opera or the kind you find in a gossip mag.
Problems in Marriages are like aids unless people hear them and discuss these problems openly the prospects of saving marriages will be dim. So people are encouraged to discuss these issues wherever they surface as a warning to others who may be drifting in similar direction. This way we may save some marriages. Any nation is belt on strong family bonds which is the smallest unit in a national set up just like the cells are building blocks for bigger structures. In this statement I am neither supporting nor criticizing any side. Any broken marriage is not good for the nation, and it is not good to the families involved, it is a traumatic occurrence. Just like the way aids has been discussed openly and ways to prevent have been brought in the open so should this cancer of broken marriages
mr mulanga,
you should have started by telling us your marital problems and how you have resolved them before posting this counsel.
are you sure you would want us to know your bedroom issues?
be real man.
She would have left when he cruised past her – walking to the clinic -at night- carrying THEIR child had she had any self-respect.
KIKIKIKIKI
Ka Kafupi ka Newstead Zimba kalitemwa ukutoba bad!
Shame, elderly people behaving like teenagers! Shame again I say Shame
Please imwe vibili, mwatu tinka na nkani yanu. Take that matter to the elders not at this fora where even kids are made to read of bed room matrimonial issues.
Typical Chipata women, indalama shapwa love yapwa. If President Sata gives him a job today she’ll be smiling at him as if nothing happened.
Yes it should be marriage of benefits why stay with him if you will starve to death. change quickly to where money is coming from period. @ msana mwanzili before you love please ask the terms of the union if the motive was for money why hang around if the source dries up.
I don’t think this is intrinsic of Chipata women. I would like to think we have decent ladies in the east in the same measure as we have wise men from the east. I would also want to defend men against a sweeping statement by @Nubian Princess that men a programmer to be bullies. I don’t think most of us men are like that. There are still caring and loving Zambian men out there. Look hard and you will find us.
Yaba umusebanya !! Thats the problem with taking marital problems to the courts, they ends up becoming public knowledge.This is what i call as “washing dirty linen in public” Nice one Mr and Mrs Zimba.
marriage issues become public the moment one starts sleeping around.
Stubborn ******* grandpapa Newstead is now being undressed in public like a toddler! ****pass the popcorn****kikikikikiki The **** should have paid of Noami.kikikikiki
Zimba left his wife who had suffered with him and went for ka girl. Manje the sun is not shining the ka girl wants others . Am sure Zimba had registered the houses he acquired in a corrupt way in ka girls name. Mwaona manje ayambakulila.
This sticky fingered ******* chap profited from DEC seized property from drug dealers back in the 90s, the chickens have come home to roost.
This couple has been in marriage for over 20 years. Today they want to break the bond. I know each and every home have or will have a misunderstanding but iyi yena yachilamo. According to the madam, Mr Zimba has been hammering more than 5 girlfriends but on the other hand he also caught her with another Man. What a marriage! I really don’t know what to learn from this couple. I think Mrs Zimba has find an alternative solution. She must be in a serious relationship elsewhere.
I am praying for them also.
Be ware all adulterous men! Ba Zimba deserted his first wife Naomi but she doesn’t want him now that the money he had is gone and the man is old . Shame upon you all marriage wreckers!!, whatsoever a man sows he also reaps!
Naomi broke mr Zimba’s first marriage, why should she run away now? Because the man has no money ? I don’t feel sorry for such men pantu umwapitile Imfula ne chilala.
Even when my freind’s father ( late Suzyo) was a minister with money ka Naomi kaletombesha kubaice mu Buchi when she was running Zina near cams robots, that STI came from her not Mr Zimba bufi. That bitch broke a decent home don’t support her she is evil Mr Zimba’s son committed suicide because of her, she is cursed. Please court don’t dissolve that marriage she must die with what she started 20 yrs ago
The real reason is Mr Zimba is now old and broke . there was no love in the first place. it was all about money and status for Naomi . We all know how this marriage came about and all these events are not strange at all. lesson to all men, stay with the wife of your youth so that all may be well with you.
it’s interesting how Naomi, a husband-snatching woman can refer to her husband as adulterous forgetting that she herself is very much adulterous.
London eye good point! Maybe for her it was something else 🙂
Mahule mahule mahule mahule!
Surely days are numbered, in October 1993 this man had his then wife Nora Zimba arrested for confronting a pregnant Naomi over their affair. He abandoned Nora and his sons for her. Now the days have caught up with him. She put up with his nonsense when he was minister and diplomat. Now that he is Old and broke she cant stand his past. Am learning from other peoples mistakes.
Just think; it’s October again. Things have gone sour. Chakusanga Naomi. You thought you were smart.
Mr Zimba’s behavior aside, this woman is evil and I hope Newstead just gives her share and run away. A normal woman wouldn’t undress her husband in such a way.
And what’s so wrong with calling a spade a spade. There may be other underlying issues but if Zimba was/is adulterous the court will want to know the reasons to give them a dissolution of their marriage
She’s trying to justify why marriage should be dissolved
This mudala divorced his original wife after he became Minister in Chilubas era, there was even a clip on TV, and for that woman she grabbed someones husband and today she even has the audacity to tell the world that she was infected with a venereal disease, she should have known better the two are the same. God deliver them. GOD BLESS ZAMBIA.
Ba na zimba mulichipuba,for 20 years your man is now bad,why didnt u leave all those years,l know hes just broke now,that’s why.That’s the price of ending or grabbing other women’s husbands.uliimbe!
Reaping
..what you sowed.
Naomi! in life you leap what you sow am when you were young and fresh and just upon completed your Grade 12 at Helen Kaunda Secondary School you did a ka coup di ta to the then Mrs Zimba who was the age of you mother and Mr Zimba lavished you with presents by buying you the former ZCBC store building in industrial area at CAMS which you turned into a saloon and today you say his an faithful!!!!! sure!!! while all along when he had money and prestige stuck to him like a tick any way you stuck to his pocket and since his pocket is empty you want to divorce him.Naomi you started started the affair on a wrong foot and there you are!!!!
SO this is what happened, since Naomi is a gold digger, the mine has run out of gold, she is moving on to the new site. Ba Naomi iyo kwena…noluse tamwakwata, The husband’s behaviour could be a result of the way she treated the original mrs zimba. This only proves that there is no joy in grabbing someones marriage, Naomi is cursed
A ka very dangerous snake this ka girl, If she is the same one she once tried to talk me into fimofimo…… thank god I resisted
ulula aniwe.
can’t you read.
she has revealed everything against her husband of 20 years.
what is their to hide?
Foolish man, God gave u a perfect wife u left her for a common bitch now its time to pay back
ishi mbwa sibili shalipwa. uyu mwanakashi chitontoli
you woman you are sincere if you are saying problems started soon you got married 20 year now where were you all these days is it today when you have realized you had STI and announce to who why didnt you hundle it that time women you are a problem
My dear its Newstead- marrying your friend’s daughter 20 years younger than you! Sadly, all the children from playman (not playboy) Zimba’s first marriage have passed on and only Naomi’s children remain! Plus na amaka yalipwa nomba- where does Newstead go? Umuchanga nabo bwalipwa or in wifey’s name! A grandfather no grandchildren! Reminds me of one former Deputy Chief Justice…….
My dear its Newstead- marrying your friend’s daughter 20 years younger than you! Sadly, all the children from playman (not playboy) Zimba’s first marriage have passed on and only Naomi’s children remain! Plus na amaka yalipwa nomba- where does Newstead go? Umuchanga nabo bwalipwa or in wifey’s name! A grandfather with no grandchildren! Reminds me of one former Deputy Chief Justice…….
Iye tata, we shamo ulakula….so Zimba’s children from the first wife have all passed on. The man is now regretting big time, I wouldn’t be surprised if he decides to take his life. What a lesson. Where is the first wife, hope she is doing very well, may God bless her, she must have gone through a lot. Ba Newstead nomba, its begging time …the sam way the first wife was begging her 20 yrs ago. Table have turned kwati bufi….its like a movie ka
Mrs. Zimba passed on last year, poor woman
@31.2 that is so sad. She probably didn’t recover from the bad treatment she got at the hands of this bad man. Let him pay now big time. Nobody should feel sorry for this scumbag. He thought he was living it up.He has lost a lot he doesn’t even realize it. He will end up old, alone and broke. He left the woman who really loved him. The first wife. When he was not a minister and globe trotting she was there.She should have still been the one. Now he can’t turn it around. He deserves everything that’s coming to him.
Only God and the two know who is telling the truth. The woman is definitely exaggerating as has been the case always for those who cheat. She was caught red-handed and in order to divert attention from her own infidelity decided to dig up the past and exaggerated. I think both are guilty looking at the origins of their current marriage. But, hey, which one of us has not had some ka-story about another man or woman in our married lives.
The woman certainly wants a share of Mr Zimba’s property to start a new life which promises better “bed works” with more sexually virulent younger men. We know this little trick. Mr Zimba, let her go. You will find a sweet 50+. They are there.
BA Naomi muli BA chipelelo, chitongo wamulusuba. When you grabed him from ba Nora you he would change ai? Akatanshi takalisha. I am sure there is another old man you have spoted. Shame on you
You are talking about ba Nora, what about ba Helen, surely Naomi when you were grabbing this man from his lawfully wedded wife Helen, did you not think that one day another younger one would grab him from you, learn to leave married men be, learn to have a heart for married women.
Interesting.
too many details
Kikikikikikikik. You’ve made my day!
@1.7 ndobo
You are very right. when zimba had status she craved for he did worse things than what she talking about. Now that status is gone this husband grabber who-lay wants to tell us all this gabbage.
Women bahave same everywhere, whenever a man faces a rough time, these good for nothing born with a who-lay instinct, start finding faults where there none just to leave the guy scrapping thru on his own.
Spot on George Bush.
guys naomi is old now dont call her girl,20yers ago she was in her twenties meaning she is above 40. anyways too bad for old zimba. at yo age we the young ones shuld be coming for councilling to u, not u seeking advice from the young ones its a shame. nyele ya bwanji at yo age
I hope that Naomi reads this. She is wife no. 3. He left wife no.2 for Naomi who was a friend to mr Zimba’s daughter. Naomi was a girlfriend to mr Zimba’s son. Naomi’s father was a friend to mr Zimba. Naomi lived in the same neighbourhood as mr Zimba. Ala uwakalema takaleka! He has an eye for young women that is why he went for you Naomi. How can you be surprised that he went for your sister? Ngaiwe? In our society Mr Zimba is as good as Naomi’s father. Maliza apaka. What example is Naomi giving to her own daughter with this public display? He can’t be satiated by 1 woman, that is why he left the other 2. How can you expect him to stick to you. Swallow a chill pill and shut up. Do you have to undress yourself in public now. Just leave him quietly. tawafundwa?Think of your daughter…
Its like we now know the full lives of these *****s, Naomi and Mr Zimba, both of you are the same, mwefipuba mwe…… shag yourselves to death kaili this is what brought you together. Chi zimba you wrecked your beautiful family and sad thing is all of your children and wife are dead, you cant even go back to plead for mercy and start afresh. This is what I call COSTLY DECISION…….
So I was right this man is a scumbag? The soap opera you have described in the first few sentences of your post says it all. I can’t even wrap my head around it. You go on to castigate Naomi when you should be castigating this old man. He’s the one who’s not taught. Look at how many people he hurt at the very beginning of this relationship? He cheated on wife no. 2, he stole his son’s girlfriend ( just imagine he was sleeping with a woman who had slept with his son! Did someone on this forum call him a dog?), he put his daughter in an awkward position of calling her friend step mom and finally his friend became his in-law.Phew! What a story! I thought it only happened on the Bold And The Beautiful. Hey Zambia no need to import American Soaps. It’s happening right there! Writers get…
its bad
Private and Personal Matter!
Money. Now that he has no stature and money the bitch is coming up with stories! The worst thing u can do to a man is cheating on him. Let him even stop pleading for reconciliation. There is no marriage here.
Most likely the real reason maybe that Zimba has run out of money. Typical of most African women!
Mr Zimba, what are you going to teach your children? You should grow up. You are too old to acting like that. Don’t be foolish.
But Nuisance ni Zimba
adjoured!
Rumour had it at that time that FTJ tried to intervene when Madame Zimba approached and complained that the husband was leaving him and Zimba was arrogant saying that even the President was also having the same issues so he could not counsel him on marriage matters and he went ahead and kicked his first wife out and married the then beautiful Naomi, new flowers never cease to bloom and Zimba continued in his quest for more new flowers. Time has caught up with both of them this is good for the foolish old man.
Both of them are wrong. I’m castigating Naomi for bringing the bedroom palwalala. If she was a well taught woman she could have sought other avenues of airing her grievances. This chigololo marriage was a sham. In the 80s Alangizi never taught anyone who married the Naomi way and this is the result we are seeing here. For all I care they can kill each other but this union produced a child whose welfare should come first. Not the poor child hearing about how the parents infected each other with STIs. Kulandafye ati irreconcilable differences chapwa