Whether or not you realize it,your success and outlook in life can also depend on the people you surround yourself with.
But science takes that one step further.According to researchers your success may also depend on who you marry.
A study recently published at Carnegie Mellon University shows that spouses can greatly affect the decisions you make, ultimately contributing to your success or failure.
According to this study people with supportive spouses are “more likely to give themselves the chance to succeed.”
People with supportive partners tend to take up more challenging tasks
They came to this conclusion after studying 163 married couples.Each partner was given a choice – to solve a simple puzzle or to compete for a prize.Researchers then took note of each couples interactions with each other.
They discovered that those with more encouraging and supportive partners were likelier to compete for the prize.Those whose partners were discouraging opted for the simpler puzzle.
But they did not stop there.When researchers followed up on the same couples 6 months later,they found that those who took on the more challenging exercise reported being having better relationships,growth,mental well-being, and are generally happier as a couple than those who solved the easier puzzle.
According to Brooke Feney lead author of the study and professor of psychology in CMU’s Dietrich College of Humanities and Social Sciences,
“We found support for the idea that the choices people make at these specific decisions points –such as pursuing a work opportunity or seeking out new friends –matter a lot for their long-term well-being.
“Significant others can help you thrive through embracing life opportunities. Or they can hinder your ability to thrive by making it less likely that you’ll pursue opportunities for growth.”
Famous power couples also agree
Perhaps the best proof of this is the most famous power couples in our world today.Barack and Michelle Obama,Mark Zuckerberg and Pricilla Chan, Jay-Z and Beyonce- only a few of the most iconic couples out there.
All come from different backgrounds and dwell in different industries, and yet , all admit to one similar thing: they wouldn’t be as successful as they are now without their significant others.
In a 2011 interview with Oprah Winfrey, then US president Barack Obama confirmed just as much.
“Obviously I couldn’t have done anything that I’ve done without Michelle.You were asking earlier what keeps me sane,what keeps me balanced,what allows me to deal with the pressure.It is this young lady right here ..Not only has she been a great first lady,she is just my rock.I count on her in so many ways every single day.”
Mark Zuckerberg said just as much as in his 2017 Havard commencement speech.The Facebook founder attributed his social works efforts to his wife, Priscilla.
“Priscilla’s the most important person in my life so you can say , it’s the most important thing I built in my time here.”
But it isn’t just women who prove to be supportive spouses.RnB music powerhouse Beyonce also attests to her husband Jay-Z’s support.According to Beyonce,Jay-Z helps and supports her on “so many levels.”
“I would not be the woman I am if I did not go home to that man.It just gives me such a foundation.”
Closing thoughts
We all have very different definitions of success. And perhaps some of you might not even want to marry.
But you can’t deny the wonderful feeling a supportive partner brings to your life.Just having someone who believes in you and gives you the confidence to take bigger risks is truly invaluable.
It not only makes you more successful,but it makes you happier and more appreciative of your achievements.As they say,success feels less if you don’t have anyone to share it with.It’s not something you absolutely need to have but it could be a great bonus.
Perhaps this is something you always need to look for in a future partner.
Source:Nomadrs
Good article, been married to a very beautiful lady and still fancy her after 25yrs
Very true, I mean look at me. Marrying my wonderful regina is the best decision I have ever made in my life. In fact, I wish i had known my wife from day one so that i didn’t waste time on my f00lish EXs. No one comes close to you. I love you my regina and you have been thr reason for my successful life
Yes indeed! Choose your life partners carefully. The trouble is that, when the love bug strikes, it’s very difficult to be strategic.
What of like me with 2 wife’s ??
Does it mean double sucsses ?
The secret to your success is God, you and hard work. All the men in the pictures above were successful before their women. Stop trying to justify women with a retirement plan.
The secret of success is just good luck and the good wishes from the spirit of your ancestors. Sometimes, stealing from your own impoverished people can be a measure of success. Look at Lungu and his cohort of bellends.
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Got to do men things to get man’s salary. Jay z was wealthy already when he met Beyoncé and so was she, Zuckerberg was already rich when he married Priscilla. Obama was already successful in his own right and so was Michelle when they met. A man makes a house while a woman will make it a home. To all men out there, don’t buy into this unless you and her are building a company together and fall in love while you are on your bottom. Otherwise a man needs the monk days of developing into a man and meet some goes before he brings a woman into the picture and so should women do the same.
@tkapite, no one that made money out of stealing was ever successful. Many pass out in misery and sadness. Money alone shouldn’t be a measure of success unless it were as genuinely earned as the rural farmer earn hard their happy lives