Former National Milling Managing Director Peter Cottan has filed for a divorce claiming that his wife denies him sex.
Mr. Cottan has requested the Lusaka High court to nullify his marriage with United Nations High Commission for Refuges–UNHCR- human resource manager Lenny Cottan Nee Chona charging that his wife has been unreasonably denying him sex.
Mr. Cottan claims that he has not enjoyed normal and satisfactory sexual life since 2009.
He argues that after noticing that their four year old child has been affecting their sexual life; he decorated a nursery room for the toddler to be sleeping in but the move proved fruitless.
Mr. Cottan says his wife has without any consideration of his sexual feelings given no explanation and that his marriage has suffered irreparable damage.
He further accuses his wife of refusing to take contraceptive pills and that she had been forcing him to use male condoms which he dislikes.
And Mr. Cottan further alleges that his wife does not allow him to exercise parental role of his twenty year old step son Choolwe Chona.
But responding to Mr. Cottan’s claims Lenny Cottan Nee Chona says the use of a condom was a collective agreement as a means of safe sex.
Mrs. Cottan refuted her husband’s claims.
And on the assertions that she forbids Mr. Cottan to exercise parental role to Choolwe, Mrs. Cottan accused her husband of being hostile and unkind towards her son upon realizing that his alleged improper sexual association with a ZICAS student had been exposed.
Mrs. Cottan claims that her husband has since left their matrimonial home and is cohabiting with a Namushi Monde a ZICAS student who is his step son’s schoolmate.
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I dont think these two have exhausted all available options before going to court. let them sit down with friend and relatives first.
Hmm, not sure what to make of this. Too many issues in one. first, interracial marriage which brings up discussing issues of this nature publicly. Furthermore, ZICAS issue comes up again. O well, I leave it up to alangizi to comment. Good luck with your resolve.
He’s an old fart! How does he expect that young lady to give him unconditional love after she got all she wanted from him? Only young gold diggers who allow to be touched by such an old man. He better start looking for someone he’s own age. Otherwise the next young fresh blood is only after one thing. MONEY
Cottan is right. sex with a condom in marriage OS the worst thing that can happen to man. if you can’t get it live. ring side in your own home and bedroom. where else can you get it then. There OS still Aids out there to risk live with a prostitute
Cottan bring lobola to me.. I have a well educated girl in Scotland called Mushota. She always like old white pipo like you. Leave my sister alone..just because you are the husband does not mean ni every day ukutongama..kupelako ba sister ka breaki kabili..
Cottan has the right to demand sex on everyday basis. He already paid for that. Using a condom in a home does not make sense to me unless otherwise stated to be the only way out. Condom niku mahule not mung’anda twakana ifye makamba! I advise cotton to chase this tonga woman and go for a Bemba young woman who will give him backache. I am sure he will enjoy a bemba woman they are quite sweet. Oh no a ngoni woman can dance better for him. I end here!
Has cotton run out of options for him to complain now? How has he survived all this tym? Women sometimes behave funny or is it that she has milked him off his National Milling package and he is not getting enough corporate sponsors to enable him have some cuts? Just leave her and find someone who will love u unconditionally
@5 PanAfricanist, you just made my morning. I like your post. Your sister is educated and I guess well cultured for ends all her contributions with “THANKS”.
Mr Cotan, I really do not think your marriage has broken down irretrievably to warrant annulment. I feel you are just washing very soiled linen in public. Go back home and learn to care for and control your young wife otherwise vultures are already waiting to pounce on any loose meat.
Mupase alepule boma mwamuna wako iwe mami. Alefyaya ukupema bwino bwino Cottan. Not yama rain coat mu chikwati.
Nyenga mumatako
ZICAS students seem dangerous! What are they teaching at ZICAS?
This bible says since there is so much immorality,each man should have his own wife and woman her own husband.the husband should fulfil his marital duty to his wife, likewise the wife to her husband.the wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to the husband.in the same way ,the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but to the wife also.do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. then come together again so that satan will not tempt you because of your luck of self contol.so dont starve your husband.if hes a white then i know why i do understand.better stick to our black men cos muuuuh………..you can finish the sentence.
oh hes a white just seen his pic now i know why.
It is no longer Dan Pule alone. now whites are divorcing their black wives who were just after them for their gold:money. Leave her and get someone of your age. But not the young ZICAS girls. I think you need to hear from the late Kabusha.
Peter! You are lucky she agrees to even have sex with you in the first place you old fart!
Thats the thing with these interracial marriages based on racial complexes soon that fetish runs out and all you see is the person.
This man is obviously cheating on his wife & she knows it. She would be stupid to take chances. Who knows how he does it with the small one at ZICAS & co. Mama, just leave this dirty old chap. You seem like a good person. Live on!
I smell a rat too here.A condom with your wife when disease is not part of the equation ? Hmm…yashupako iyi.Anyway time they all moved on.I`m sure the ka zcas student has played her cards well.I hear she is a good mate of iris so i can just imagine what Cottan has going,Ladies mulepelako abalume otherwise a man will find it somewhere and if it is Zcas the capital city of akalela then ninshi walusa.
This is absurd
Thanks
From your comment it looks likw you havent yet smoked today.
Reminds you of someone at home!! kekeke
A white man….. Mushota support your choice!
tell a man no food today.he will say ok but tell him no sex.his eyes will pop out,his palms will sweat,his voice will crack,his heart beat will increase,and a man with peters skin color will turn pink and he will say to you “what did you say”?lol men and sex.we were born to do it.:x
Good afternoon
I think it is unfair to conclude that all interracial marriages have a simillar flaw. The marital problems outlined in the story are common even in marriages of the same race. Every relationship that is bulit on the foundation of love and trust will stand the test of time, no matter the age, race or social differences.
But when the foundation is not strong enough, it is just a matter of time before love is overdue, and there’s very little that can be done to sustain the relationship. It will have to take some marriage counseling and reconciliation tacticalysis to hold things together!
Mushota, here is another old white man for you. Â No need to be there in Scotland. Just go back to Zambia and marry Peter.
Cottan balemuchinga kwi guza.
Im also dating a white girl
this is meaningless,you have not yet transformed your brain into a mind ,reading all this bullshit is not going to help any.
Cottan files for divorce, the wife doesn’t contest the divorce but merely explains their agreement on the use of condoms and substantiates it with Cottan’s extramarital relationship. She also exposes the monster in Cottan for his hostility and unkindess to her son. In short no one regrets whatever they did or are continuing to do. Besides, there’s no report of either party wanting the other to leave their divisive ways and “COME BACK HOME”. Therefore the divorce seems consentual and easy to grant.
Is the porno boy Malekani son of this woman and step son of Cottan? Hmm, i get the connection now.
Nishani ubuule mumayanda ku Zambia kanshi?
Obviously she insists on a condom this guy behaves lika a dog sleeping with any that moves. She has reasonable fear that he will infect her with HIV. This guys believe that they can abuse women in zambia while in their home countries their women keep them busy doing yard work so they don’t have time for this BS
so ZICAS is the school of the year ka, even in Cottan’s marital issues they are featuring, its a pity. I just wonder how much study is going on in that school. Prioritising sex issues than academic ones. I thought from schools we must be hearing news like, student of the year in accounts, or some student has invented something, or ZICAS is topping in Africa or the world in academic matters. But all we are hearing is ZICAS sex that sex this ohh come on we can do better
This old chap is facing the stiff penalties of taking too much Viagra!!
Very sadly children have lost both parents due to Zambian men who are in extramarital relationships, and their wives have not been brave enough in the face of overwhelming evidence to insist on protection and blood tests due to our African culture.
THis is what it means when we say; pipo enter in marriage life uninformed. the result kulaisebanyafye ififine pabana
If she is depriving the husband of sex,where does she get sexual fulfilment herself? Nzelu zamahule,akana uku koma anyengesa kwinangu.She has a bustard child,what defence has she got to condem her husband for immorality.Was is not because of illicit sex that she bore a bustard child?BaCottan banapenzamo ma sperm kudala.Cottan just get another woman you will have sex with happily whether HIV positve or not.
I don`t know where this world is taking us. Can love expertise assist them please?
ZICAS means: Zambia Institute for Casual Adult Sex.
ZCAS: Zambia Centre for Adult Sex.
Don’t give up let him wear. Follow the slogan of the miners ati safety ba mwinsho …..
So Cottan is now “old” and he should be made to leave by sex-starvation after he has built houses and raised his step son from primary school to ZCAS? Why didnt this couple quietly agree to separate or file by just saying they are no longer in love? Even Hon. Dora Siliya was wise at time of her divorce not to disclose the reasons (until…inadvertently misquoted by the Post)
@35 AND @36, Wansekesha sana ait ZCAS means Zambia Centre for Adult Sex.
Cottan says he dos not like using condoms, so if this ZCAS thing is true he has been chewing “Live” mwebantu so mukazi wake aliche kumulesa kudya “live” pa nyumba
hey please this is not a social platform to air ur ignorance.
Mr.Cottan you are not alone there are many men who are denied sex by their wives and most of these men are cowards they dont want to come out in the open for fear of being looked down upon what they do is have girl friends.This woman is requesting her husband to put on the condom when making love (Having Sex) this marriage is over.But responding to Mr. Cottan’s claims Lenny Cottan Nee Chona says the use of a condom was a collective agreement as a means of safe sex.
Mrs Cottan there many women out there who are waiting to take that man and keep him happy,The poor advise and poor decisions you are making will haunt you the rest of your life learn from Hilary Clinton and other grown women of wisdom
For how long his Mr Cottan going to put on a condom with the wife? If its 6 months until they do the medical check ups, thats alright. But if its for good or until death do us apart then the marriage is over. Mr Cottan you are free to go for live wire anywhere you can find it.
this is embarrassing ..so the libido is that high for such an old man..!hahaha
@45 Mwine; they say a man is only old if his body can’t do what the mind tells him to do!
Is Cottan still sponsoring the boxing lady?
#44 Gologigo. Hilarious comment! Rib cracker. People, do you call a woman who has a 20 year old son young? I dont think so. This story tells you just how the “taboo” tag on sexual issues has been broken in Zambia.
After critical analysis i realise that there one question that needs to be answered”why did the wife decide on the husband to be using condoms” once this xtion z answered then comments and suggesionz can be aired.
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